Developing leadership skills at home

28 January 2020

Developing leadership skills at home

  • Learning/Education
by Michael Grose

It’s difficult preparing children for the world of work as the future is so uncertain. However, the ability to lead others is one attribute that will always be in demand regardless of whether your child works for a large employer, in small business, community work, is self-employed or engages in project work.

The need for leadership skill development has never been greater. Initiative, innovation and resilience is the currency of the workforce of the future. These leadership skills are best fostered from an early age at home, which will give them a head start at school.

After working in the student leadership area for many years I’ve identified five skills and traits that form the building blocks for future leadership, which can be promoted easily by parents at home. I’ve included them below with tips how to put each into practice.


Being a leader means that your child is willing to take responsibility and be accountable for their actions. Personal responsibility is shown when your child is accountable for their behaviour, for their belongings and for the welfare of others. Practical ways to develop responsibility include:

  • Giving them responsibility for a certain part of their day such as getting themselves out of bed each morning
  • Encouraging them to restore relationships with others including siblings when they mess up
  • Taking responsibility for household chores including resolving problems if they forget to do them


The ability to clearly get a message across to others is common among effective leaders. While most leadership positions require your child to speak publicly, their communication skills can be developed through regular one-on-one or small group experiences at home and at school. Practical ways to develop your child’s communication skills include:

  • One-on-one conversations with adults about a wide variety of issues and topics
  • Regular discussions at the meal table where kids learn to share their thoughts, listen to others and report on events of the day
  • Encourage your child to participate fully in speaking activities at school such as daily news time, class and school plays and debate


The ability to organise yourself and others is central to effective leadership. Thinking what needs to be done, planning ahead and making time are basic organisational skills at the heart of personal effectiveness and leadership. Practical ways to develop organisational skills include encouraging your child to:

  • Keep their personal space including their bedroom tidy and organised
  • Use a diary to help manage their time
  • Organise a weekly chores roster including all members of the family


Cooperating, encouraging and acceptance of others are essential qualities of an effective leader. A family is a great place to develop a sense of teamwork in kids as it naturally requires kids to compromise for the sake of keeping the peace. Practical ways to develop a sense of teamwork include:

  • Encouraging kids to share their time, possessions and spaces with other family members
  • Practise teamwork at home by encouraging siblings to cook and do other chores together
  • Emphasise the role of being part of a team by focusing on your child’s contribution to a team or group rather than individual achievement

Emotional intelligence

An underestimated quality shared by most admired leaders is their ability to remain calm when things don’t go well. This emotional intelligence skill requires self-awareness, an ability to identify their own emotions and respond appropriately to the emotions of others. You can nurture these skills in the following way:

  • Help your child recognise their emotions. “Could it be that this makes your angry?”
  • Help your child recognise emotions in others. “How do you think your brother feels right now?”
  • Discuss emotions of characters in books, television programs and movies. “How you think that character felt when he was he was rejected by his friends?”

Leaders are needed in all walks of life – at work, in school, in families, in sport and in the wider community. The skills of leadership are best developed in the first group that a child belongs to – their family. By encouraging your child to be a contributing, responsible, caring family member you will be going a long way toward developing their innate leadership capabilities.

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Michael Grose

Michael Grose, founder of Parenting Ideas, is one of Australia’s leading parenting educators. He’s an award-winning speaker and the author of 12 books for parents including Spoonfed Generation, and the bestselling Why First Borns Rule the World and Last Borns Want to Change It. Michael is a former teacher with 15 years experience, and has 30 years experience in parenting education. He also holds a Master of Educational Studies from Monash University specialising in parenting education.