Dealing with sibling rivalry program

There are two types of sibling rivalry.

There’s healthy rivalry where competitiveness helps kids improve. 

The rivalry that would have existed between former Australian cricketing twins Steve and Mark Waugh as kids appears to have been a very healthy rivalry. It helped them both play their chosen sport at an elite level and affected their lives in very positive ways.

This healthy rivalry helps kids develop the skills to deal with conflict, relationships and disputes at school and in the workplace beyond.

BUT there is another type of sibling rivalry that is plain unhealthy. This unhealthy type of rivalry strains family harmony, destroys relationships and harms kids’ self-esteem.  

This unhealthy rivalry is common in many Australian homes, and can be seen through constant bickering, squabbling and arguing between siblings.

Sibling rivalry that shows itself through fighting can make family life just plain unbearable. BUT there is an even more harmful type of rivalry that parents need to curb.

That is, when kids continually put each other down, continually criticise each other and won’t take any pleasure in the simple accomplishments of each other.

This type of rivalry is toxic. Left unchecked it can lead to long-term relationship damage and self-esteem problems, particularly for those children who always on the receiving end of the put downs. 

A child can only hear so often that he or she is dumb or silly before the suggestion starts to take permanent affect. Parents need to take some positive action to reduce the toxic affects of sibling rivalry.

My revised siblings program Dealing with Sibling Rivalry will help parents take the positive action to reduce the impact of sibling rivalry and take the nastiness and the harm out of the rivalry.

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Let’s face it, most parents I meet struggle when it comes to sibling rivalry and sibling fighting.

My post-graduate research into sibling rivalry showed that over 80 per cent of parents are significantly challenged by sibling fighting. For half of these parents it is the single most significant family issue for them to resolve.

My study showed that those families who experienced less unhealthy rivalry and more healthy rivalry had several things in common. For instance, they have a process in place that enables children to resolve conflict with adult assistance. Relationship problems just didn’t fester.

Also parents didn’t respond to every little dispute between children. They left them to sort out dome of the incidental issues but helped them break through some BIGGER unresolved disputes.

Where rivalry was healthy parents saw family life as a ‘we’ proposition rather than a ‘me’ proposition and they worked hard to promote a sense of sharing. There were many other strategies they use as well.

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Parents who experienced less unhealthy rivalry had eradicated a number of parenting strategies. For instance, sibling comparison by parents was rarely used in cooperative families but was often on show in families when rivalry was toxic.

High praise parents also tend to produce higher levels of sibling rivalry that showed themselves in their children’s differences.

Whilst much of my sibling research has gone into my two books One Step Ahead and Why first borns rule the world and last borns want to change it until now I haven’t had a specific program that really addresses sibling rivalry.

I finally changed that when I published my Siblings Confident Parenting Program 12 months ago.

I have just finished revising and updating this program. I also changed the name to Dealing with Sibling Rivalry and changed the cover too.

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Dealing with Sibling Rivalry will help you get more of the healthy kind of rivalry that helps kids achieve and reduce the unhealthy kind that is so destructive to long-term sibling relationships and damaging to self-esteem.

It will also gets stacks of ideas to help you respond positively to children’s tales (six possible responses) as well as what to do when they fight.

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As with all my resources Dealing with Sibling Rivalry comes with a 100% return guarantee if it doesn’t match your expectations. Just send it back and I will refund your money.

I am confident that you will find this program one of the best parenting resources that you will ever own.

Committed to bring out the best in kids,

Michael Grose