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Raising feisty five year olds

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Five is typically a time for starting school, boundless energy and overcoming obstacles………and of course, tooth fairies.

The five-year-old’s world is rapidly expanding: each day they have to negotiate new social situations with new people. If your five-year-old is the eldest then you are entering new territory as well. You need to feel supported and also be open to learning.

1. Support their learning

Support your child’s learning by being curious yourself, following up on what his teachers or pre-school teachers recommend and ensuring they get plenty of exercise, and importantly, have fun.

2. Help their language to become more sophisticated

Many children will automatically speak differently to adults than they do to their peers. This is great social etiquette to reinforce as socially skilled children can use different language according to different groups they are in.

3. Be ready to negotiate

Many five year olds like to negotiate with their parents. You may notice that ‘because’ is one of her favourite words.

4. Introduce family meetings

Five is the ideal age to introduce family meetings as they give you a vehicle to teach your child to argue their point calmly, politely and fairly - a valuable skill.

5. Many become avid collectors

It’s fascinating to note that a child who keeps a messy bedroom, will make sure his rock collection is neat, tidy and orderly.

6. Screen the screens

It’s also the age to develop your philosophy around digital learning with expert guidance from your child’s school. Many five year olds use television as a relaxer after a day at per school or school– like staring into the fire – it helps them unwind.

7. It’s time for consistency

Kids this age depend on familiar routines and structure, and that applies to understanding your expectations for their behaviour.

8. Sing from the same songsheet (if there are two parents)

It helps if parents are on the same page about household rules and behavioural expectations, so there is no confusion and no playing one parent off against the other.

This is an extract from the Developmental Parenting Planner for raising five year olds that's available for purchase here.



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