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"Don't say that, say this"

Blog Post Teaser Image Here’s a funny habit that’s peculiar to Australians, and it doesn’t serve us well at all.

 Aussies are great at saying “DON”T”, particularly to kids.
“Don’t go near the water.”

“Don’t eat with your mouth open.”

“Don’t yell inside.”

Nothing wrong with setting some standards, it’s just the technique that needs working on.

The negative command is always heard by the sub-conscious mind, which means at some point it will it probably be acted upon.

Yep, there’s a good chance they’ll go near the water/ eat with their mouth full and yell inside. That’s what they’ve heard.

Unless the negative comment is followed by a positive, like this:

“Don’t go near the water. Play on the grass”

“Don’t eat with your mouth open. Chew with your mouth closed.

“Don’t yell inside. Talk quietly.”

Here's the kicker.

Say the positive part in a lower voice and it will drive the positive behaviours into your child’s self-conscious.

In that way, kids are more likely to act in positive ways, which is what you are trying to achieve.

As in all things communication-wise in families it’s the small tweaks that make the biggest difference.

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