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- Michael Grose
The mere mention of bedroom tidiness can cause parents to shriek in despair.
If you’re locked in a battle with a child over the state of his or her bedroom you’re in a no-win situation.
Children generally see bedrooms as their sanctuaries and strongly resent parental interference. These are places where they can hang posters on the walls, display memorabilia and keep junk on the floor.
More often than not families can come to a rational agreement about bedroom tidiness by following a few common sense guidelines.
1. Bedrooms generally are not going to be spotless. Kids live in them. Adjust you standards to kids’ age and stage of development.
2. Determine the degree of untidiness you can tolerate. Mess beyond this agreed-upon point means you are unwilling to enter their rooms to kiss children goodnight or to put clean clothes in drawers.
3. Have two standards of neatness. One for everyday use and one for when a friend visits, which is higher.
4. Bedrooms are to be tidied well on a weekly basis. This will help prevent an outbreak of typhoid!
5. Untidy rooms have closed doors. That way you don’t have to see them.
6. Young children need to help make beds, tidy rooms and keep floors clean. You may have to spend time doing this with them. This type of training pays you back in spades later on.
7. Determine the type of assistance you want to give older kids. Sometimes they can become overwhelmed by untidy bedrooms and need some guidance to get them started.
From my experience the state of bedrooms will reflect the child more than it does your parenting.
Some kids can operate well around mess, while others like to keep their rooms tidy as doing so helps them feel in control.
It helps to have guidelines rather than hard and fast rules when it comes to some of the tricky areas of working with kids. Bedroom neatness is just one of those areas to be a little flexible with, for the sake of your sanity and theirs.
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