Why chores Rosters rock?
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- Michael Grose
Most parents like the idea of kids helping without being paid, but have trouble putting the idea into practice. It can be hard work changing entrenched habits. Besides, you can feel like a nag always reminding kids to help out.
That’s why I love Rosters. When something needs to be done refer to the roster. “Okay guys, who’s turn is it to do the dishwasher?”
It’s the humble jobs roster that’s tells kids what to do, not you.
It takes the responsibility of helping right out of your hands. The third party (the roster) becomes the culprit.
There are 7 secrets to making Rosters rock! Here they are:
1. Don’t crowd the roster with jobs
. Two to four jobs each day is enough. Not all jobs go on a roster. Just the significant ones.
2. Change the roster each week.
This gives you a chance to rotate the less than pleasant jobs.
3. Place the roster in a public spot.
Accessiblity is the key if you are to refer to it often.
4. Use symbols or simple pictures for non-readers.
Yes, very young children should help.
5. Make weekends different.
Homes work well when there are two routines. Kids should still help on weekends but differently.
6. Make a sibling responsible for drawing up the roster (this can be rotated).
This gives ownership to kids.
7. Include yourself on the roster.
This is the kicker as kids will generally help you when they see that you help them.
Okay, so how do you make sure that jobs are done? Here are four ideas:
1. Don’t let kids off the hook!
Sometimes we do kids’ jobs because it’s easier. Once in a while is fine. But if you are always doing kids’ jobs then you are responsible, not them. It may mean that morning jobs are still there for kids to do when they come home from school.
2. Don’t give kids jobs that you have an emotional attachment to.
When my kids were young I didn’t give them the job of feeding the family pooch as I knew that I’d always be checking on them. The cat however, was a different story!
3. Be prepared to withdraw your cooperation until a job is done.
Be friendly with how you do this. Consider letting kids know you’ll cook the evening meal when the dishwasher is done.
4. Use grandma’s principle
. That is, make sure the pleasant tasks are tackled after the less pleasant tasks are completed. So kids can turn the TV on when jobs are done. Get the order right!
Let me know what works for you to get kids to help out without being paid.
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