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Push through the pain

9 March
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Michael Grose

I’ve joined a gym again, and I’ve been reminded of an old adage that many sports people are familiar with.

That is, you have to push through the pain to get some gain.

The same holds for many things in life, and a lesson worth passing on to kids, but not in lecture format. It builds the character and psychological muscle as I outlined in my book Thriving!

It particularly holds true when kids want to give up on an activity, whether it’s giving in when a piece of homework becomes too tough or finishing a sports season early because they weren’t having success.

I know a number of children who have always given in whenever an activity becomes a bit tough. Their parents allowed them to continually change activities, sports and even schools.

There’s always a honeymoon period when things are easy.

But when the lessons, the learnings or the social aspects of any endeavour became more demanding these kids gave in and started again.

Of course, each new activity, sport or school had a honeymoon period and things always seemed great. Then things got tough and they changed again rather than push through a little discomfort or pain.

Changing when things get tough has become such a habit that for one teenager, that he is always trying to find and easy course in life. He chops and changes when things get tough. Even getting a driver’s licence was too tough, so he gave in!

And his parents have never experienced what it’s like to make them push through the pain or experience discomfort.

“He doesn't want to do it!” is their established mantra.

They, like their son, never pushed through the pain and always took the easy way out, giving in to their child’s wishes too easily.

Now that he is a teenager giving in has become ingrained and is difficult to shift.

Encourage your kids to push through the pain, rather than give up when things get tough. You will be doing them a big favour and preparing them for what is an increasingly competitive world.

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