Middle Child Myths
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- Michael Grose
The term middle born carries a lot of negative connotations.
'Left out', 'playing second fiddle', 'middle child syndrome' and 'it's not fair!' come to mind when many of us think of stereotypical middles.
But there are many myths around middle born kids.
Despite popular belief middle borns can be just as successful as their eldests siblings, they'll be successful in different ways.
Middles often develop a more flexible view of life as they have always had to fit in to the life of the first born as kids. This helps them as adaptabilty is a great success skill to have in your armoury.
Middle born kids usually have more friends than first borns, as they develop good diplomatic skills in their families. Getting along is something that often comes naturally to middles. They tend to be the social glue in many organisations as adults.
Middles are certainly driven more by social justice than money. They are often caring, altruistic and like looking after the welfare of others. Interestingly, competitiveness is a quality many middles have in common. Perhaps, it comes as a result of being surrounded by children in their families and having to compete for attention, food, as well a sin games.
Middleness is heightened when children are all the same gender. If a middle child is of a different gender than his or her siblings, he is less likely to be left out of the family loop.
There is no doubt that middles are most likley to different to the other children in the family. The differences are greatest between a first born and the child below, who often becomes the middle child.
Studies also indicate that middle children are the only birth order position that doesn't have 'spoiled' as a descriptor. They tend to expect less of life, and learn that they have to fight hard to be successful.
Read more in my book Why First Borns Rule the World and Last Borns Want to Change It.
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